So...
I have the utmost appreciation and respect for state/phase-oriented situations where people suppress a certain amount of their emotional vulnerability due to childhood tragedy/ies.
Perhaps, however, if you live almost 40 years doing this after the point of your childhood tragedy? It's going to get messy. Maybe marriage was never a great idea as another distraction from acquiring therapy.
Nevertheless. We have The Proposal. Or, Sandra Bullock as hip-hop dancing / singing Liz Lemon "paying homage" (the reality isn't…