movies where the scifi element is small, inconsequential, or downplayed for the sake of characters, relationships, emotions, etc. going for a very specific and hard-to-define vibe, quiet movies mostly. preferably no large-scale high-concept scifi, and maybe no aliens either. also, this isn't a comprehensive list, but only movies i think fit and also ones that i like.
these aren't all strictly scifi, I know, but I'm keeping them all in anyway so please don't leave comments about that, thanks. there are crossovers between fantasy and sci-fi and speculative fiction and magic realism always!
films that have been recommended, but I haven't seen yet (will be added after I do and if I think they fit):
a scanner darkly