I waited for years to be ready to face this, as I was promised tears. Lots of them. The harsh ending of a beautiful relationship, raw and real and emotional.
Huh. All I could see was a manipulative jerk making his girlfriend/wife feel bad and giving her the 'nice guy' speech again and again. And her ex and her boss are jerks too. And the film is subtly slut-shaming her. And people side with Ryan Gosling in this? What the hell... I was even rooting for them to break up.
It's wonderfully acted and the cinematography is well-executed, but the story is messed up. There, I said it.
*Edit: I had more thoughts on this, which you can read here: bjoergwatchesmovies.wordpress.com/2017/12/11/why-is-blue-valentine-taking-his-side/